Good evening, everybody. How are y'all doing? Welcome to the show. Got a great show plan for you.

We're going to open the show by talking about how to heal. And also in talking about how to heal, also there's going to be a discussion of how to prevent infidelity.

Now, as always, I want this topic to be one that we use to self reflect. We're looking at ourselves first. Are we doing this? Are we not doing this? So I'm

talking to the person who's cheating or creating or has had the infidelity. But then I'm also talking

about those that have been victimized by it. So it's conversation for both. It's something that we

might all encounter. Again, I don't make the rules, just sharing stats. Depending on the research you look at, anywhere from 50 to 70% of all

relationships have someone cheating or someone cheated. Very high number. And honestly, it's not

that everyone's horrible. It's that I think on one hand, we're not in relationships that are

healthy. And so a lot of relationships are operating from a

place of a toxic form of monogamy. I'm not saying monogamy is inherently toxic, but the

ways we tend to do it are toxic. We've talked about that on the show. We will talk about that again.

But we run our relationships from a place of not love and not care. And we don't have honest

discussions about who we are and what we need

and how we're feeling. And that can be part of what causes someone to go into some infidelity.

It's a horrible thing to do to someone. It breaks a lot of trust. It takes away your partner's

autonomy because they're not able to be part of the solution by being told that there's a problem.

Cheating is an attempt to heal something.

It's an attempt to get a need met.

But it's a dishonest way of going about doing it because whatever it is you're trying

to solve or get in that infidelity or cheating, I'd want you to be able to discuss with

your current partner before making that choice,

saying this is what's missing.

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