Evening, everybody. Welcome to the show. We got a great show plan for you. We're going to be talking about how it is that we end up keeping ourselves single now. Before I even open up the topic, I want to remind everyone that there's nothing wrong with singledom. Being single does not mean that there is something wrong with you. It doesn't mean that you are doing life wrong. It does not mean that you have misplaced your priorities in the hierarchy of how they fall.

Some people are solo, solo driven solo base. That is an appropriate relational style.

Not everyone has to be geared towards or wanting partnership. It's one of the beautiful things

that has come out of the creative diverse ways that people form and build relationships.

Now that things like open styles, polyamory and all these different things get more normalized,

we can learn about the hundreds of hundreds upon hundreds of different ways that people

can relate.

I'm trying to coach and encourage and motivate people to just at least consciously choose. Again, historically,

we just fall in line and we think that we naturally have to always be seeking relationship

and that if relationship's missing, oh my gosh, we think something's wrong with us. There's a box

unchecked and then we create all this pressure. We personalize. But dating is a very complex

thing. It's about meeting the right person

at the right time and really assessing chemistry and compatibility. So again, it's okay to be

single. We shouldn't all be if single looking for a relationship. Some people in relationship

should be working towards singledom. And as we learned in let's say the polyworld, some people are

polysolo where they're with a partner that's polyamorous and wants multiple relationships, but they themselves are very solo.

Some people practice relational anarchy, which means they don't prioritize romantic relationship before other relationships.

To them, everyone is equal.

Their friendships are as deep, as meaningful and as important as their romantic or sexual relationships.

You do not have to prioritize your romantic partner. All these different relational styles.

Point being, it's okay if you're single. It takes time. It's a numbers game. But we're going to

talk about some of the things you might be doing that are keeping you single or stuck in

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