Oh, good evening, everyone. How are y'all doing? Welcome to the show. Got a great show plan for you.

I'm going to be talking about relational stuff that fowls us up. It's false beliefs. It's

myths. It's things that we've bought into. We think we know. We don't know anything. You know know it's just because we don't have a lot of

good relational training i wish in school there was like a course in this because it's so

it's wild to me how we have this idea that like you know you're too young to date and then

magically when you become of age whenever or whatever that means we're like oh

we think you should just get it and figure it out but it's like well let's say you start dating

at 18 let's just go with that for a second you really think 18 year olds 19 year olds 16 year olds

you really think that just learning from each other as you go is the best way to do it no so what

are you going to look to your family family? Well, your family was also

raised without the knowledge and just kind of winged it and figured it out. It's like, eh. Now,

luckily, a lot more people are getting into therapy and couples therapy. So hopefully that

helps stop what we call the intergenerational transmission of really poor mental health and

relational skills.

But there's so much we have to work through.

We have our family of origin stuff, like literally whatever was done to us.

Then we have our attachment stuff.

The relationship we have of their parents set us up to either feel safe or anxious or

insecure around relationships and our ability to tolerate closeness and intimacy.

And then every event that happens socially after that reinforces that or heals that.

Then we're up against our body esteem and ageism and abelism and, you know,

misogyny and toxic masculinity.

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