Good evening, everybody. How are y'all doing? Welcome to the show. Got a great show plan for you.

Going to challenge ourselves to come from our best, which I hope is what I'm always doing on the show.

DMs, as always are open. Got a question for us, dropping the DMs on our Loveline IG page.

We'll be circling back and doing that later in the show.

Wanted to open up the show talking about a concept that we don't talk enough about. It's something

that I work with a lot of the couples that come into my practice on and it's about separation.

It's called conscious uncoupling. And like a lot of the things that I think are most important culturally or even within

mental health, it tends to not be the norm.

The way we run things relationally, psychologically, tends to be a little outdated

and more importantly, not really rooted in what's necessarily best.

And when you think about relationships ending, marriage is ending, relationships

ending, we automatically say, oh, man, and we just expected to be tumultuous and very difficult.

And we are not surprised when we hear people talk about really, really

conflictual, you know, high conflict breakups and divorces. And I want to really propose

that we do start to move towards a conscious, mindful, compassionate version of separation. I know that that's hard

because the reason why relationships ended are sometimes rooted in someone being harmed. Other

times they're not. And I don't know which one would, in theory, be more difficult. Having a

relationship end because of harm, which for some allows them

to leave angry and leaves that allows them to leave feeling like a victim. And for some,

as painful as it is, it's preferable to the opposite, which can be a relationship that felt comfortable, neutral, at peace,

maybe even loving and positive for you to have that taken away or ending and being confused

or unaware as to why.

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