Good evening, everybody. How are y'all doing? Hope you're getting through the week, starting it off right,

focusing on a little bit of self-care every day, as much rest as possible, and building in room for joy.

Activating that joy, stepping into it, leading a more pleasure-centered life. We need more of that.

We don't need to work harder or work more. We need to be focusing on the other things. So just your daily reminder. We got a great show plan for you. We're going to be talking about ways to reduce holiday stress. Ah, yes. It's important stuff.

Holidays are supposed to be fun. So we're going to talk about some of that.

I wanted to open the show, though, talking about a topic that comes up often in my practice.

And it's something that I think we need to think about differently. Again, a lot of mental health work is really about unlearning,

unlearning problematic narratives or expectations.

We've been ways of moving through the world and relationships.

And our relational work is the most important work we're going to do in our lives.

And that's why it blows my mind.

I see people working so hard at their jobs and acquiring certain skills and forms of knowledge

or working really hard on their bodies at of knowledge or working really hard on their

bodies at the gym or working really hard on their beauty techniques and skills at home and

fashion and all sorts of stuff. But we put no time often to working on our emotions or our

psychological health, which often are about our relational health, right? Relationships are where

that work is shown,

what we need to be working on. It's also where we can do it and how we can do it. Again,

we're all in a multitude of different relationships. So with your friends, family members,

colleagues, loved ones, people you are dating, whatever it is, that can help us really figure out

where that work should exist. So what do I mean when I say work on yourself emotionally and psychologically? Well, at the very least, work on being more

emotionally regulated, work on being a better relational partner. But bigger than that,

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