Good evening, everybody. Welcome to the show. Got a great show plan for you.

We're going to be talking about things to ask people at the beginning, middle and deeper into the relationship, to deepen your connection, intimacy, to learn more about them and yourself and also to have a sense of what is possible with this human being.

I know. I know. We enter relationships,

figuring it out as we go, trying to make sense of it, drag and forward all the trauma, drama,

and bruises from the relationship prior. We drag that into the newer ones. All of our attachment stuff,

family of origin. It's amazing that we get anywhere these days.

But people that have an awareness of themselves do the work.

And that's what we're really trying to figure out.

Before we get into tonight's topics,

just want to kind of throw a few things at you in relationship to this early point I'm making.

If you pay attention enough and you know what to ask you know what to look for

you can figure a lot of things out on the front end um because remember we're not trying to sell a

dream not at the early part of a relationship not middle not deeper in so we're not trying to be

liked we're trying to be known a lot of people think it's all about playing games, manipulation, playing hard to get. It's your turn. It's my turn. It's all games. It's all anxiety. People with a lot of self-esteem and self-worth don't do that. They're vulnerable and they focus on authenticity. They're like, look, I'm going to continue to date as myself. And when we get married, I'll continue to be myself.

And whether or not that works, we'll find out.

And that's the important question that remains.

But they don't try to change who they are to fit in.

They don't try to sell a dream.

I hear things like, don't have sex too soon.

Don't act too interested.

Don't text too interested. Don't text too often. Those are all, again, tips and tricks for people that have low self-esteem or a lot of anxiety. They don't think that anyone would want them. They don't think that they're worth wanting. But interested people like signs of interest. No one is ever going to be upset that they've heard from you or gotten a compliment from you or that you've shown up as interested if they're interested as well. So I'm always holding the bar high for everyone and assuming you're an adult

and that the people you're talking to are healthy adults and we take it from there. Any tip,

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