Happy New Year, everybody. How are you? We did it. Just when we didn't think we could get through

2020, we did. If nothing else, that was a milestone of last year getting through it. A whole year,

I know. And the battle isn't won. That's the thing. Let's celebrate getting through the year as best as we can.

Low expectations. I mean that in the most loving, positive way. And it's a new year now. And we're

going to kind of reorient our thinking. Why? Well, the vaccines, you know, crack a lack and they're going.

They're doing their thing. But we still have a lot of time before the wider population has access to that. So again, we got to just remember, we're in a pandemic.

I know it's not the first thing we want to hear entering the new year, but we have to be reminded

of that.

So we're still social distancing, wearing our masks.

But we're also looking back at the year that we just had.

Now, those that have, you know, are familiar with my work. No, I'm not a big fan of the New Year's resolutions. But I do like the idea of us always using newness, right, moving away from something,

whether it's a relationship or a job or a friendship or our past year and looking at who we were.

I think that's what's meaningful.

I think that's what can be beneficial in leaving something.

Who were we? Who do we want to be again? I say that every time someone leaves a relationship. Once they've mourned loss,

if there's even a loss to mourn, we talk about who were you in that relationship? That's the

best way to learn about ourselves. Looking back, what are the parts of myself that I don't ever

want to engage in again? What are the parts of myself or the behaviors that I don't want to ever bring forward into something new?

And then the inverse.

What are the parts of myself that I'm proud of?

What did I learn about myself that I absolutely want to take forward into a new relationship?

Well, we can do that with the year as well.

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