I like to ask people what did you learn about yourself from your past marriage?

I learned that first of all it's it's impossible to have healthy love without the Lord.

Like I feel like it is impossible to have a healthy love. love without it being rooted and grounded in Christ. I learned that I am, I can be manipulative, I can be manipulative I can be passive aggressive I can I can be defensive I can be

defensive all the things I want people to hear this because see a lot of men you don't think women can be accountable.

Now look at this. I know you heard that on social media like women can never be accountable.

Oh, mouthy, all of the things. You said

manipulative. What does that look like in a relationship? I think I'm

really good with my words.

So like the thing that you're gifted in,

I feel like is the very thing the enemy tries to attack,

will attack you in and he'll,

so the very thing that God wants to use you for

for his glory and for his kingdom is the very thing that the enemy wants to use you for for his his agenda and plan.

And so when my heart is far from the Lord I can be manipulative in my in conflict and in trying to be

defensive and trying to get you to come to what I want you to come to.

Every second that escapes without you here with me

keeps my heart anticipating

till I finally see you. until I told God that I was going to take care of this gift. I've been to my spouse. I told God that I was going to take care of this gift. Giff.

Goh, you know I've been praying for you.

You know I've been praying for you.

Been writing these love letters to you.

So I fight for that future in the present.

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