Hi everybody, welcome to Your Move where we help you make better decisions and live with fewer regrets.

I'm Andy Stanley and I'll be your guide and if your city is anything like mine, this past weekend, couples,

join hands, made promises, exchange rings, with the assumption that a promise replaces the need for preparation,

that all they needed was a promise and a party and they were good to go.

And you're smart enough to know that that is not how it works, it takes more.

And it's the more we're talking about today, right here on Your Move.

This is a series for anyone who's dating anyone who wants to date anyone that used to date that finds himself dating again.

If you're married, there's been something in this series for you if you're trying to make your marriage better,

if you're trying to make any relationship better, if you're engaged, love dates and heart breaks.

This is something that's near and dear to me because one of the things that breaks my heart is watching people make relationship decisions that undermine their relationships

or making relationship decisions in a current relationship that I know and that even they're smart enough to know,

you're smarter than you know, is going to undermine the integrity of a future relationship.

And we said week one that much of the confusion when it comes to loves and dates and that whole issue of romance and the whole dating thing,

so different than it used to be, are two myths and that they're basically two myths that fuel pretty much all of our thinking when it comes to relationships.

And once we surface these myths, once we talk about them, they're clearly myths.

And so the first myth was the right person myth. We said the right person myth is that once you meet the right person,

everything's going to be all right, including you.

You're just going to magically change and become an incredible person once you meet the right person.

All of your problems, all of your habits, all of your insecurity, it's just going to go away. The problem is you just haven't met the right person.

We said that's a myth. And the truth is we grow up isn't this true. We grow up fantasizing about meeting the right person.

We never spend a moment of time fantasizing about becoming the right person.

But who you become often determines who you meet and also determines the success of the relationship.

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