Hey everybody, welcome to your move where we help you make better decisions and live with fewer regrets.

I'm Andy Stanley and I'll be your guide and today we're talking about love and romance and specifically.

We're talking about the fine print. The fine print that will make you fine.

It'll make you worth finding and keeping, no losing and a lot less weeping. Stick around.

Now today we are actually in part two of a series entitled Love Dates and Heartbreaks.

And this is a series for people who are dating, who used to be dating, who want to be dating for high school students, college students, graduate students, singles.

If you're married, there's something in this series for you for sure. If you're single, again, there's something in this series for you.

This is a series for anybody who's serious about romance and serious about long-term relationships.

And the other reason that I'm excited about this series is not just what you're going to get out of it, but what I get out of it, because this is my opportunity, as I said last time we were together, to talk about something that breaks my heart.

And perhaps more than anything outside something that could happen in my personal family, the thing that breaks my heart the most about our culture and society,

is watching people make relationship decisions that undermine their relationships. This just breaks my heart, because as I said, there's so much unavoidable pain in life anyway.

The last thing we need to do is complicate our lives further, especially our relationships, by making decisions that undermine the integrity of our personal relationships.

And the truth is, we've all seen this. You have watched friends and family members make terrible relationship decisions, and you thought to yourself, my goodness, can you not see what you're about to do?

Can you not see that this is not going to work? So this is really easy to see when it comes to other people.

It's virtually impossible to see in the mirror. And part of the reason is love is a fog, and romance is a fog, and lust, and everything that goes, it's just a fog.

And so consequently, it's sometimes very difficult to see bad relational decisions in the mirror. So that's one of the reasons that we're talking about it.

Now, last week, we said that a lot of the confusion around love and romance and dating and all this stuff comes from two myths.

And these myths sort of operate in the background of our thinking, and as soon as we talk about them, clearly they're myths.

You're smart enough to know that can't possibly be true. So we talked last week about the right person myth.

The right person myth is not that there's not a right person. The right person myth is that once you meet the right person, everything will be all right.

And all the married people chuckled, if you remember, right?

Because, and the myth goes like this, that regardless of what you do between now and the time that you meet the right person,

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