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LOVERS by Shan

Love At First Sight Almost Sabotaged My Marriage

LOVERS by Shan

Lemonada Media

Relationships, Society & Culture, Sexuality, Health & Fitness

5.05.7K Ratings

🗓️ 26 April 2023

⏱️ 31 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, I want to break down what I know about “knowing” someone is the one, before you know their true character. This isn’t meant to knock anyone who chooses to mate this way, because culturally a lot of us subscribe to the importance of instant attraction even if we don’t think we do - but instead to provide you with some knowledge that I wish I had before letting love at first sight lead me astray. Love at first sight is a global phenomenon - meaning no matter where you go, there it is in different languages, stories and beliefs.In this episode I define what love at first sight is, explain why the brain likes to do it, provide insight into how love at first sight might just be another brand of discrimination, explain how it can be used wisely and also share the dangers of placing a lot of emphasis on how couples met.Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!BLISSYhttp://blissy.com/LOVERS and get an additional 30% off! BABBELhttp://Babbel.com/LOVERS for up to 55% off your subscription. Babbel—Language for life.HELLO FRESHhttp://hellofresh.com/LOVERS50 for 50% off plus free shipping!Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0

Quarter life crisis. I'm 25 years old and I don't even have a guess to the answers to life's big questions.

0:06.6

I am the definition of lost. And furthermore, I was actually physically lost and stumbling around a city.

0:14.0

So at that given time, I had no idea what I was going to do for a living. but photography is the trade that I picked up while I

0:21.7

was in college to pay my way through college. And of course, thereafter, when I couldn't find a job,

0:26.5

it ended up being a thing that I continued to do just to stay alive and keep a flow.

0:30.6

My living situation as a result was in flux, and my romantic situation was even more confusing.

0:37.2

At that current time, I was seeing somebody whom held a candle for me, held a torch

0:42.3

for me for years and begged me to give them a shot.

0:46.0

And eventually, after a night at a club, I was like, okay, fine, like, you're so persistent

0:50.5

and there's maybe something between us, so let's see what this is.

0:53.9

So I lean into this

0:55.0

person only for them as soon as I made that attachment to start leaning back. And now there I was

1:00.6

thirsting after somebody I wasn't even attracted to to begin with. So I'm on this job where I was

1:06.4

basically a freelancer in a city in Canada, photographing the culture there.

1:12.3

It's not something I was passionate about.

1:13.9

It's not something that I was interested in.

1:15.4

And I, for damn sure, did not want to be in that given city.

1:18.3

And to boot, my project manager was someone that I found highly annoying.

1:24.6

So I'm lonely and I'm desperate and I'm confused and I'm on this stupid

1:29.0

job and I said to myself the very least that I could do is try to make this situation

1:33.8

a little bit less annoying. I'm going to not just photograph the culture here. I'm going to

1:39.2

photograph the hot dudes here. That's what's going to make this time more fun. So all throughout

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