Hidden Brain turns 10 this year, and to celebrate, we're bringing the show to cities across the United States and Canada in a live performance.

Our next stops are in Baltimore on October 11th, Washington, D.C. on October 12th, and Los Angeles on November 22nd.

Join me as I share seven key psychological insights from the show's first decade.

For more information and tickets, go to hiddenbrain.org slash tour.

That's hiddenbrain.org slash tour.

I hope to see you there.

This is Hidden Brain. I'm Shankar Vedantam.

There comes a time in most relationships when people look at the partner sitting across the table from them and think,

who is this person?

Maybe you don't like the way your partner eats with his mouth open. Maybe you don't like the way your partner eats with his mouth open.

Maybe you don't like the way she's always working.

Maybe you don't like, well, lots of things.

At moments like this, a thought crosses our minds.

Perhaps we can get our partners to close their mouths while they eat. Perhaps we can get them to have more work-life balance.

Perhaps we can change them into a better version of themselves.

We know exactly what needs to be done, and we know exactly how to do it.

We'll first explain, very politely, of course, how our partners are doing things wrong.

We'll show them how they can be better.

If they fail to listen, we'll go back and try again.

Maybe add a wagging finger, a slightly raised voice.

With patience, persistence, and a little punishment,

we can get our partners to change their ways.

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