Losing Your Identity in the Relationship - The Brilliant, Worthy You - Exes as Friends - The Right Partner

The Overwhelmed Brain

Paul Colaianni: Emotional Abuse and Relationship Expert

Mental Health, Education, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

4.5 • 2K Ratings

🗓️ 18 September 2016

⏱️ 61 minutes

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Summary

Nurturing yourself while you're in a relationship decreases the impact breaking up has if and when it happens. The more you keep the connection with yourself and don't lose a part of you in the relationship, the healthier you stay. You lose your identity in a relationship when you don't nurture yourself. When family doesn't honor you and see your worth, sometimes you just have to distance yourself from them so that you reconnect with the brilliant, worthy you. Not everyone is capable of seeing what you are, so it's important to continue nurturing and supporting yourself as if you were your own child or best friend. When your partner has a friend who is also an ex, how do you feel about that? Do they talk all the time? Do they have to communicate because of shared custody of children? Do they communicate more than you'd like? It's important to understand where your line is and when your partner is crossing it, otherwise, their ex becomes a part of your relationship, which can be damaging if you're not all good friends to begin with.

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0:00.0	This episode is brought to you by Pepsi Max. Christmas is great, but there's loads of ways to make it better.
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0:20.1	Christmas.
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0:28.0	Welcome to the overwhelmed brain where you'll learn to make decisions that are right for you
0:32.0	so that you can create the life you want now. Hello, welcome to the show. My name is Paul Kolyani and I am here to help you increase your emotional intelligence so that you can avoid dysfunction,
0:56.0	handle toxic situations with grace and ease and show up as your authentic self.
1:02.0	Everything I talk about in this show is my personal opinion
1:04.7	and is meant for informational and educational purposes only.
1:08.0	Always consult a medical or psychological professional
1:10.0	before making any changes that could affect
1:12.0	your physical or mental health.
1:14.3	So I heard from someone recently because I asked for an update on his situation and he wrote
1:19.5	back and said this, hey Paul, here's the update.
1:23.5	I recently broke up with my girlfriend and it was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do.
1:28.5	It ended up being more mutual than I expected, but she was still shocked by it. I think she was afraid to confront the problems because
1:35.0	of how hard it is. I feel heartbroken and sad quite a bit, but I know deep down it was for the
1:40.4	best. So I guess it's time to let the healing begin.
1:44.0	Anyways, I wanted to thank you again for the info on the podcast. It really means a lot
1:48.0	that you take the time to do this and I appreciate it very much.
1:51.0	Thanks for everything.
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