Hey everybody. Welcome to your move where we help you make better decisions and live with fewer regrets. I'm Andy Stanley and I'll be your guide. Now here's something to think about. By the time we reach adulthood, we are all really good at monitoring our behavior in order to get what we want, right?

But there's something more important for us to monitor our hearts because what's in there doesn't stay there.

And that's why we're talking about it today right here on your mood.

Stick around. Growing up in our home and I bet your home was similar there were certain words that were off limits I'm in our home and again I grew up in a different generation than some of you, but here was one of the big ones.

In fact, it's hard for me to even say this out loud in church, okay?

Darn, I was like, ugh, you know.

This was like not being able to say this word was a fence rule.

A fence rule.

A fence rule is a rule that keeps you from breaking a worse rule.

And so in our home, we didn't want to say the word that sounded kind of like darn not yarn start through D anyway and so if my parents thought if we don't say this word you know the kids won't drift over to another word because the ultimate rule was no cursing or we didn't say cussing

I don't know if that's a southern thing or not but no cursing or cussing either one so

we had kind of these fence rules around some words.

And the threat was, this is really gonna show you something.

So the threat was if you cuss or curse,

if you say one of these words, especially that word,

you're gonna get your mouth washed out with soap.

Sure enough, we lived in Miami at the time, so that meant I was in the fourth grade or younger.

We had a little tiny house, a little sidewalk that went out to the sidewalk that connected all the houses in the row

and I'm standing out there I still remember this and my friend had knocked his bicycle over and

I'm on my bicycle we're just riding up and down the little sidewalk there and I stopped and I said get that darned bicycle out of my way and I

looked up and literally my mom I don't know how moms do this, she was standing on the front porch.

No lie, she's standing on the front porch, I look up and she gave me that, you know, thing, you know?

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