I don't claim that my darma is the right darma. It's just a darma. There are many damas.

And don't believe what I say, investigated as the Buddha said in the Kalama Suta, don't believe what a teacher says,

see for yourself, investigate for yourself, pursue your own truth.

And maybe something I say will be of interest, maybe not,

but just because I say it doesn't make it at all true

or at all anything I say is not a representation of the Buddhism because there is no

the Buddhism. There's just a lot of different wonderful, valuable darmas. So we are a very social species. In fact, our greatest tool that allows us to survive is our ability

to bond, to forge alliances. The vast bulk of human history was spent in what's called

hunter-gatherer Collectives where you would and I would spend our entire lives in a group of about

five or six adults with children and the most important capability that we

harness to stay alive was our ability to maintain the good graces of every other member of the group so that they would have our backs when we were injured, that

they would take care of us when we were ill, that if we couldn't collect enough food when we were scavenging,

that they would share their resources.

So our primary drive from birth is to connect, to attach. Now you might think that

Buddhism is all about non-attachment.

Actually, the word in Polly that the Buddha use,

Upadana, that has been translated into attachment, it doesn't mean that. Upadonna simply means clinging

onto something material that cannot give you happiness, trying to give you happiness. But in the Buddha's prerequisites in both the

polycanon and the suitas and sutras of all the different traditions the prerequisite for any spiritual

practices the ability to forge true connections with each other.

And we start that process with our parents when we're born.

We seek, most of all, to be seen by another. That's called an English

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