It cannot let my growth and my confidence get impacted by other people. Feeling shame, being embarrassed doesn't mean it should stop you. Of course you have the freaking right to feel confident. It's hard, you have to work hard, it's like a muscle, you have to build it. But of course you have to write and don't you dare let anyone tell you otherwise. How do I talk about my accomplishments confidently without sounding conceited? Where is the line between confident and vain? I love this question so much because I totally understand the conflict you are currently in. You can be so proud of your accomplishments. You've probably really worked really freaking hard. There's probably been nights, weekends, blood, sweat and freaking tears that you've put in for these accomplishments and you feel freaking good about them and you want to tell the world because you're proud. And then you go out in the world and you tell people and now you start getting these weird looks. People get uncomfortable. No one's actually reacting the way you want them to react.

You want me to feel like, oh my God,

a completely new thing is done now.

And yet, other people either change the subject, maybe they just go quiet. And so now you start to feel like, what am I doing wrong? I've worked so freaking hard. I've busted my ass to get where I am. And now even just saying it out loud is now making other people really uncomfortable,

it can be so confusing.

And it can really actually diminish inside it did for me at least it diminished how I felt about my accomplishments so this was really struggling for me so I had to break it down and realize okay am I proud of my accomplishments I'm I proud of what I did yes now I can be proud of them but I can still be sensitive to the outside world. And what I mean by sensitive is that we all live in our own heads. And so sadly, unfortunately, this is just human nature. When you sit with somebody, if someone is struggling with something, if someone is, let's say, wants to have an accomplishment like you and they're working hard and they just keep failing. Now when you come to them and you are so like, yeah, enjoy and you want everyone to celebrate and you feel confident and you feel good about it. What is actually doing to the other person is they're just seeing in your success all the failures they currently are going through. And that can be really, really tough to swallow. And so in those moments, some people may retreat, some people may actually backlash,

some people may tell you to be quiet. And so I realize that there's two things happening here. There's one, am I proud of what I did? And how the hell do I not let other people, whether they're struggling or not, you wanna have, of course, the empathy, but even with the empathy, if they're struggling, don't let their struggle, Like the mini short accomplishment and that was very important to me.

It was very important to me.

It was very important to me to say,

I am proud of this, and I'm about how the other,

the world out there reacts.

I'm so confident on what I did, how I did it,

and that I freaking showed up,

and I have to believe it to my core,

because I know I cannot be looking outside

for those validations. And so I make sure first and foremost,

I validate myself in my own achievements,

and that's where I feel freaking confident

in validating myself.

Now, in talking about them,

it just is a different way of thinking.

It's a different way of showing up.

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