Welcome to the Overwhelmed Brain Podcast, helping you navigate the difficulties in your life and relationships.

These are my personal opinions. Always seek a professional when you're making choices about your mental health and well-being.

Thanks for joining me today. Looking forward to talking about this. I get a lot of questions to this show and there are a few core questions that come in. I'm going to read you and just kind of answer them off the cuff and you'll see what I mean in the second. Like how do I know when to stay and when to go?

Get that question a lot. Typically in relationships,

but also in a job or a place that you live. How do you know when to stay and when to go?

Well, I like to try these questions on myself. If this were about my relationship, I would know

it's time to go after I had at least, I don't

know, five or ten conversations.

And those conversations would be very deep, very hard.

And those conversations would occur after a lot of reflection about what I want for myself.

Like, what are my values in a relationship and are those values being met?

What are my boundaries in a relationship?

And are those boundaries being violated?

And so that question of when do I know to stay or go doesn't really occur until I've

figured that out in myself.

So I'm not going to ask myself, okay, is it time to go or should I stay?

Until I know the answers to those questions. What are my values? What are my

boundaries? And are my values being met and are my boundaries being violated? Because if they are,

that's the first conversation I want to have. Hey, look, when you do this, it hurts my feelings.

That might be something I tell my wife.

If we were having issues, I would ask her something like that or tell her something that

that lets her know that this is what's happening.

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