Lies Our Brain Tells Us w/ Amy Morin
Almost Adulting with Violet Benson
Violet Benson
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🗓️ 22 September 2022
⏱️ 61 minutes
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Summary
When going through a tough time the most annoying thing in the world is everyone seems to have all the advice on what you “should” do, right? Well you’re not alone, but the reality is that sometimes these things recommended to us are actually things we should be doing - but before we can even fathom doing them, we have to drop our bad habits.
Besties, welcome Amy Morin to Almost Adulting! Amy is a licensed clinical social worker, college psychology instructor and psychotherapist, and responsible for one of the most popular Ted Talks of all time. Today Violet and Amy start the conversation by unpacking the often stressful topic of habits - how we form them, stick to them, and what we can do when we accidentally break our positive habits. The duo dives into what our bad habits say about us, and the importance of breaking them in order to create good ones. Through this, Amy teaches that mental strength and mental health are actually two entirely different things, and how the lies that our brain tells us affect us on a much deeper level than we realize. Finally, the ladies discuss a topic that life never prepares us for: grief. Though grief is something no one can avoid, it’s never something anyone is ready for. Through Amy telling her story she learned coping mechanisms that truly changed her life, and that EVERYTHING always relates back to one thing…habits. Whether it be maintaining good ones, or breaking bad ones, habits can be HARD, so give each other grace and tune in to discover the tools you didn’t know you needed.
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What to Listen For:
- 00:00 Introduction
- 01:38 How long does it take to break a good habit?
- 05:45 The way we respond to breaking a habit matters
- 07:39 It’s just a bad choice, you’re not a bad person
- 08:40 When you’re stuck in the pity trap
- 12:50 Moving on with life without feeling guilty
- 17:17 Too much social media can trigger envy
- 20:34 Three kinds of destructive beliefs
- 23:27 Start challenging your underlying beliefs
- 27:00 It’s up to you how you respond to people
- 30:54 It’s okay to be honest with your struggles
- 33:32 Not everything is up to chance
- 36:05 We only hear the end game of every success story
- 38:41 Just set doable goals a day
- 41:29 Do you believe in toxic positivity?
- 45:14 Improving your mental strength
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| 0:00.0 | There's a difference between mental strength and mental health because a lot of people come to me and say, |
| 0:04.1 | I wish I could be mentally strong, but I have depression. |
| 0:06.8 | But having a mental health problem doesn't mean that you aren't mentally strong enough. |
| 0:11.0 | As a therapist, I can say, the strongest people I've met were often battling those things, |
| 0:15.2 | but it was all about the choices they kept making every day, despite those struggles that they had. |
| 0:19.7 | It's a file of events and your favorite meme queen in the big set you didn't ask for, but |
| 0:24.0 | meet up. Welcome to almost adult time. |
| 0:31.6 | Hi guys and welcome to another beautiful episode of almost adulting with me, your host, |
| 0:39.1 | your best friend, your big sister, Violet Benson. |
| 0:42.6 | So today's episode is with Amy and it's all about positive habits versus bad habits |
| 0:48.3 | and how we have to change our perception, how bad habits can trickle down to make things |
| 0:54.0 | even worse, how good habits can change your life and so on. |
| 0:56.9 | I actually found her because I've been a fan of her dead talks. |
| 1:00.9 | And this whole month has been going pretty great. |
| 1:04.2 | September is all about checking in with yourself and your mental health and just where we are |
| 1:10.1 | at in our lives. |
| 1:11.6 | So that's so far what's been going on with all my Tuesday and Thursday episodes, but I'm |
| 1:15.1 | not going to lie. |
| 1:16.1 | I'm so excited to finish this month and to get started with October because October, |
| 1:21.8 | it's about the cold month. |
| 1:24.5 | Yeah, you heard me because I'm sick and tired talking about dating and relationships |
| 1:29.5 | with mental health. |
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