Letting Go Leads To Healing
The R Spot with Iyanla
Shondaland Audio and iHeartPodcasts
4.9 • 908 Ratings
🗓️ 16 August 2023
⏱️ 36 minutes
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Summary
Iyanla shares a very personal story about her relationship with her daughter, which helps spark a conversation on releasing control of a situation in order to heal it. Iyanla’s first caller is a divorced father who desperately wants his daughter to rekindle a relationship with her mother, but he’s plagued by guilt over mishandling the situation. Then, a second caller is a fixer, always wanting to step in and solve everyone else’s problems, even if it means overstepping or putting herself second.
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| 0:00.0 | This is an I-Heart podcast. Guaranteed Human. |
| 0:08.7 | I am Iyamla. I had a baby daddy relationship. I spent time in a relationship with a married man. |
| 0:15.7 | I had to learn the skills and tools required to make my relationships healthy, fulfilling, and loving. |
| 0:24.1 | Welcome to The R Spot, a production of Shandaland Audio in partnership with IHeart Radio. When there's a breakdown in a relationship, it's hard on the people involved. |
| 0:47.3 | But here's a truth. |
| 0:49.0 | It is even harder on the people watching. |
| 0:52.4 | It's harder because they don't know if they have to pick a side. |
| 0:57.0 | They can see who's responsible for what, but they can't always say it. It's hard on the people |
| 1:04.9 | watching a breakdown and they become collateral damage. But they have to have clear boundaries and they have to know |
| 1:13.7 | where they can and cannot tread. They have to know that the relationship can be healed, but the only |
| 1:21.3 | way it can be healed is if the people involved in the breakdown are willing. And when they're not willing, the people who are |
| 1:29.4 | watching the breakdown, just have to stop watching. Turn your head in another direct. Don't look. |
| 1:37.5 | If it's hard to look at, look somewhere else. And that doesn't mean that you don't act like it's not |
| 1:43.3 | going on, but you just don't stick |
| 1:46.3 | your opinion in it at all. You've got to know that no matter how bad it looks, a relationship |
| 1:52.9 | can be healed. And you may not be the vehicle through which it is here. |
| 2:02.3 | Welcome to the R-Spot, Beloved. |
| 2:04.6 | Thank you for your patience. |
| 2:06.1 | Now, what is your challenge issue dilemma problem that we can nibble on together today? |
| 2:13.1 | Hi, yes, ma'am. |
| 2:15.0 | I'm a father of four, my oldest daughter. It's currently estranged from her |
| 2:20.2 | relationship with their mom. She's 24 years old. And early on, me and her mom went through a separation |
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