Let’s Talk About Sex! Shame-Free Tools for Better Intimacy and Communication with Sex Therapist Vanessa Marin

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🗓️ 11 June 2025

⏱️ 51 minutes

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Summary

Sex therapist Vanessa Marin is here to take the intimidation out of intimacy. With 20 years of experience as a licensed psychotherapist and millions of views online, Vanessa and her husband, Xander, have become a go-to couple for real, shame-free conversations about sex. In this episode, Vic opens up about her own sexy journey as they dive into how to communicate with your partner, reduce shame, and strengthen emotional and physical connection. From why a six-second kiss matters to what intentional initiation actually looks like, this episode is full of game-changing tools to make you feel more comfortable and confident in the bedroom.

Instagram: @vanessaandxander

Website: vmtherapy.com

Read: Eight Dates by John Gottman, MD

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0:00.0	The following podcast is a dear media production.
0:04.4	Welcome to RealPod. It's your host, Victoria Garrick Brown, and this is the podcast where we hold nothing back.
0:11.4	Oh, so we're getting deep, huh? I really cried for 12 days straight.
0:15.9	Why do I want to be perfect? There's nothing in my life that is perfect.
0:19.1	Every week, I'll bring you honest, unfiltered,
0:22.0	and eye-opening conversations to help uncover the real in all of us. I crave the type of content
0:27.5	that you're talking about. I actually felt insecure. Oh my God, I'm not going to cry. Let me just
0:31.8	unload everything. New episodes every Wednesday. Leave those filters at the door because it's time to get real.
0:41.7	Hello everybody and welcome back to RealPod. Things are getting spicy today. They're getting real spicy. I'm sure you saw the title. You know, we usually don't delve into this on the show. We're getting a little R rated, I think. But you know what? Let's not stigmatize it. Let's not make it score me or awkward
1:00.2	or uncomfortable. We're talking about sex. And today's guest is a sex expert. You may have
1:06.9	already seen her videos online. She posts content with her husband. They are Vanessa and
1:11.7	Zander. And they are on a mission to take the intimidation out of getting intimate.
1:17.2	Vanessa is a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience in the sex therapy field.
1:22.9	And Zander is a regular dude who's been married to a sex therapist for over a decade.
1:26.8	You have to check out
1:27.7	their content. I think it's so fun, entertaining, and very helpful. And I've been on a sexy journey
1:33.6	myself. Also, the point of Real Pod is to desigmatize things and have uncomfortable conversations
1:39.6	and arm you guys with the tools that you need to live your most fulfilling lives.
1:44.6	And I thought that this would be a great conversation for the show and something new that we
1:47.9	haven't done before. On today's episode, you were going to get so many tools and takeaways.
1:52.4	I literally think I texted Aubrey after like, there's a sex episode coming out with an expert
1:56.4	and you have to listen. So many things she says are just game-changing.
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