Hey everybody, welcome to another episode of Relationship Theory.

I'm your co-host, I'm Delieu and I'm here with my beloved, lovely, beautiful wife with really cool hair.

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Walking in out a bit today.

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All right, this question is from Kami Wilson.

How do you explain to your partner that intimacy doesn't always have to lead to sex?

It makes me feel like that is, that is their only priority because their love language is physical affection.

Well, so the way that you explain it to your partner is to say that instead of making it sound like it's just empirically true,

to say because what I hear in that question is a judgment that, oh, he's out of line for thinking that it always says to lead to sex,

and embrace that, okay, that's how he approaches the world, that's how he sees it, that is a trigger for him.

So if you want that to not be a trigger for him and you want to make sure that you're able to have physical intimacy that doesn't lead to sex,

that you just communicate it.

But I think the big breakthrough for us was saying, okay, that is how the other person interprets it.

That's not a bad thing.

It is the way that they do it.

It just happens to be different than the way that I do it.

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