When your child was little it might have been easy for him or her to look up to you and then when they reached the teen years they get a little more critical, a little more distance.

I certainly remember one of our kids. It's like at 17,

a switch was thrown and they wanted nothing to do with us. Just shut us down.

What do you do in those moments? It's actually an opportunity for you to connect with your child and will impact that little bit today.

I'm John Fuller along with my friend and focus colleague Dr Danny Huerta and we're returning now to a

discussion with Mylan and K Yerkovich and they are experts on a concept called

the love styles which really is all about how you grew up and attached or didn't

to your parents and how that carries over into your parenting style.

Now previously Jim Daly shared about a conflict that he had with his son Trent over some empty boxes in the pantry

Let's go ahead and continue the discussion

You know another thing that comes to mind is you can come from brokenness you know you can come from pain and one of these

Attachment issues we're talking about but that doesn't give you the right to be a bad parent.

I mean sometimes we can make an excuse rather than grow in Christ.

We leave ourselves there. This is how I am.

Well, I think the best thing we can do is be a growing parent because we can't be a perfect parent.

But I do want my kids to say five years from now, no matter how old I am, my mom is different than she was five years ago, and I want them to be able to observe growth in me.

Now I have a thought about your son.

Kids that are in the adolescent years love to point out what they think are the weaknesses in their parents and they're usually a little bit accurate.

Oh, absolutely. Okay, here we go.

So, what you could say is, I would love to have a discussion with you about how you think

I'm angry and, you know, what kind of things do I do that make you feel like that and

how do you feel when I'm angry as soon as you throw the box away that you empty.

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