Let’s Get Practical: Conflict, Needs, and the Communication Types

The Candace Cameron Bure Podcast

CandyRock

Religion & Spirituality, Christianity

4.7 • 3.9K Ratings

🗓️ 2 June 2026

⏱️ 37 minutes

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Summary

Have you ever known something was broken in a relationship but had no idea how to say what you actually needed to fix it? That's where so many of us get stuck. This week, Candace and communication coach Jason VanRuler move from understanding the PATHS types to putting them to work, starting with a listener question about a family conflict that has been festering for twenty years. Jason reframes the whole thing: the problem is rarely that people won't talk. It's that they don't know what they need in order to move forward. The conversation moves through how each communication type engages with conflict, from the Peacemaker who needs reassurance that the relationship will survive the hard conversation, to the Advocate who can throw the whole relationship away for the win, to the Thinker who arrives with a trolley of evidence, to the Harbor who creates so much space for feelings that the conflict never actually gets resolved, to the Spark who surprises everyone when the intensity finally breaks. Jason also addresses what to do when the other person simply is not willing, and how to tell the difference between what we want and what we actually need. Two more listener questions round out the episode: a mom whose first-grade son keeps getting excluded, and a teenage girl named Blythe navigating anxiety. Jason's answer to both comes back to the same thing. Confidence rooted in identity. When we know who we are and what we stand for, rejection still hurts, but it doesn't define us. And for the teenage girl spinning in worry? Noting the anxiety and then redirecting that energy somewhere useful turns out to be far more effective than overthinking it. Download the free Healthy Connection Guide at candace.com, where you can also submit questions for future episodes. For Jason's "Communicate to Connect" video guide, go to candacecbure.com/together Life is like a rollercoaster, but it's better when we go through it together! Connect with Candace and Jason Candace on Instagram @candacecbure Follow the Podcast on Instagram @candacecameronburepodcast Follow the Podcast on TikTok @ccbpodcast Jason on IG: https://www.instagram.com/jason.vanruler/ Jason on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/c/Jasonvrcounselor Website: https://www.jasonvr.com/ Sponsors For This Episode PHD myphdweightloss.com and call #864-644-1900 and mention Candace. Crowdhealth Go to JoinCrowdHealth.com and use code CANDACE GCU gcu.edu 316 Financial https://bank316.com/candace-cameron-bure IFCJ ifcj.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	This guy probably doesn't want to give away a two-hour free therapy session right now,
0:05.0	and I'm just going to lay all my problems on him.
0:08.5	We've talked a lot on this show about having a healthy relationship with our bodies.
0:13.2	And let me remind you, God doesn't love us any more or any less because of the number on the
0:19.7	scale. Yet weight loss can be a very valid goal,
0:24.0	and sometimes it feels a whole lot harder than it should. I know how it goes. You're making
0:28.9	better choices, you're trying to eat healthier, you're staying active, and yet the scale barely
0:35.3	moves, and that can be incredibly discouraging.
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0:56.1	your body work with you again. Their approach looks at metabolism, mindset, and habits together,
1:03.4	not in isolation. Many traditional diets solely focus on calorie counting and restriction,
1:09.6	which can actually make weight loss much harder
1:12.6	over time. PhD starts by helping people become metabolically flexible, training the body to use
1:19.6	fat for fuel instead of constantly relying on sugar for energy. When that happens, energy levels
1:25.8	stabilize, cravings quiet down, and weight loss stops
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1:46.9	the transition. That way, clients aren't shocked into change overnight. Instead, they're guided
1:53.0	step by step towards sustainable habits their body can actually maintain. And just as importantly,
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