Leftover 17th Anniversary Questions #3
Psychology In Seattle Podcast
Kirk Honda
4.6 • 1.2K Ratings
🗓️ 22 October 2025
⏱️ 121 minutes
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00:00 What therapy is best for Borderline?
04:42 How can I address my own toxic behavior?
07:18 Drawing boundaries with in-laws
08:55 Thoughts on relationship OCD
11:45 How can schools pick a competent therapist?
18:44 What is the best approach when a friend self diagnoses?
27:39 Dr. Kirk's experience with roller coasters
31:45 Who is Dr. Kirk's favorite 'villain' in psychology?
32:10 How does Berto have so many jobs?
32:36 How can you support a toddler during a tantrum?
36:40 Christopher Palmer's Metabolic Mind
37:06 What can help young adults transition into adulthood?
41:28 Should I be concerned that my neighbor is a sex offender?
44:47 Is CIMBS therapy helpful for attachment trauma?
45:13 "There is always a logic for how weird your spouse is"
46:15 Going through nurse burnout
49:02 What pets does Dr. Kirk have?
49:47 How can you help a partner express their emotions during a hard time?
52:24 Does Dr. Kirk extrapolate psychology on society at large?
53:10 How can IFS help someone with Borderline?
54:33 What is the best Sci-Fi?
58:08 Should you tell someone close to you that they have NPD?
59:05 What are brain farts?
59:37 Can I trick myself into thinking that I'm younger than I am?
1:01:45 Does Dr. Kirk fear for the future of our country?
1:10:55 What are signs of emotional abuse?
1:19:29 If AI developed consciousness...
1:20:13 What is the best day Dr. Kirk ever had?
1:21:15 What would Dr. Kirk like to do in life that he hasn't yet?
1:22:41 What does Dr. Kirk do for fun?
1;23:22 What is Dr. Kirk's favorite album?
1:24:23 What deep dive does Dr. Kirk think about the most?
1:25:10 What food would Dr. Kirk eat for the rest of his life?
1:25:44 Guidance for students
1:26:04 Dr. Kirk's current favorite songs
1:30:01 What makes a good client therapist relationship?
1:30:14 Is it weird to talk about your sex life with therapists?
1:31:24 Breastfeeding
1:33:35 Do ignorant comments bother Dr. Kirk?
1:33:54 What is Dr. Kirk's dream pet?
1:34:51 What is Dr. Kirk's favorite pasta dish?
1:35:51 How do you know if someone is a good friend for you?
1:36:34 Marijuana use in mental health
1:38:18 Who misrepresents their licensure the most?
1:38:44 What genre would the podcast be?
1:39:38 Is grief a burden?
1:41:07 What is the most uncomfortable boundary Dr. Kirk has had to draw?
1:43:18 Does Dr. Kirk play MTG?
1:45:45 Do twins have super powers?
1:46:14 Did Dr. Kirk have any knowledge of Mars Hill Church?
1:47:22 How can I enter a new state of change?
1:51:35 What makes Dr. Kirk & Berto laugh?
1:52:14 Dr. Kirk & Berto's biggest fight
1:58:01 A tip for a fulfilling life
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October 22, 2025
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| 0:00.0 | Hey, Desirving listeners, as promised, I am going to do a third episode now in which I answer or respond to the questions submitted on the survey for the 17th anniversary live stream. |
| 0:14.4 | Patrons and YouTube members submitted a bunch of questions that we got to some of them during the live stream. And I, in the |
| 0:23.0 | previous two episodes, got to a lot of the leftover ones, but there are many left over. And so I'm |
| 0:28.4 | going to truly do speed round this time against my normal way. This first question is from patron Zara. |
| 0:36.8 | She says, what kind of therapy is best suited for borderline patients, specifically the ones with the most deficits in the area of impulsivity, aggression, and identity issues? |
| 0:47.6 | End of question. Good question. By the way, Stacey told me that someone emailed recently saying that they felt like I haven't talked about borderline recently and they felt neglected. |
| 0:59.5 | I mean, they were sort of joking, I think, but yeah, I mean, it's an interesting thing because, you know, a good portion of what we talk about on the podcast does have to do with borderline |
| 1:11.0 | and borderline related syndromes and experiences. And I could see how some of the listeners |
| 1:18.6 | would like to hear that sort of material and content and might even be comforted by |
| 1:26.7 | occasional check-ins, if you will. But from my standpoint, |
| 1:31.7 | I feel like I don't want to bore people by talking about the same thing over and over again. |
| 1:37.6 | Not that borderline, the topic is the same thing, but the same aspects of borderline, the same |
| 1:42.2 | answers to the same questions. But when I thought |
| 1:46.9 | about it, I imagine that all of us, including myself, have forgotten the questions and answers |
| 1:53.8 | or the topics that I've touched on in the past, especially since the podcast is 17 years old. |
| 1:58.8 | And also, when I listen to podcasts and YouTube channels, sometimes I like it, especially |
| 2:04.1 | if I'm a fan for many, many years. |
| 2:06.6 | Sometimes I like it when they revisit things, even if I vaguely remember them talking |
| 2:11.0 | about it before, because I don't know, it just feels helpful and comforting in some way. So anyway, but since we're in |
| 2:23.6 | lightning round right here, what I'll say is that the type of therapy you want to look for |
| 2:30.7 | when it comes to borderline, particularly people with impulsivity, aggression, and identity issues, meaning that they're in the upper end of the spectrum of borderline. |
| 2:39.3 | You want to look for a type of therapy that appreciates borderline as what, you know, in the reality |
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