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Think back to when you first learned you're going to be a parent. You probably

imagined all sorts of great things that you would experience with your child and

then reality set in and the fact is there's no greater reward or challenge than raising a child,

but there is a moment when they take ownership of life and their faith and that's what you're working toward.

I'm John Fuller with Danny Werta, the head of our parenting and youth department.

And Danny, as parents, we all have expectations and it seems like they set us up for disappointment all the time

How do we be reasonable and realistic with their expectations especially when our kids are still young.

Well, really you want to define success as a couple.

Maybe you writing down, what would be success for my children?

Is it growth?

Is it a spiritual life that's vibrant with Heavenly

Father and that would include failure and disappointment and all kinds of

moments speed bumps along the way or am I looking for a successful child that is an amazing business

person, great abilities, athletically, start to define success early on for you because that will make a difference as to how

your parenting and where your goals are pointed.

And research consistently has pointed towards a growth mindset being the way to go instead of a fixed one where you

expect your child to be amazing at everything right off the bat.

Yes.

And you want to look at your expectations because that not only puts pressure on you, but also the child and they feel that,

once they fail that, it really creates a crisis for them.

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