When we think of great relationships we inherently think of being such a great and attractive person that others are just drawn to us. I think we are errantly programmed in grade school where it literally is a popularity contest. If you’re big or strong or pretty or a star quarterback, you are voted homecoming and prom royalty. This doesn’t work in the real world where we grow up and actually want to feel connected to people and if someone can’t do that we don’t care what their skills and looks. Think of the people in your life you feel cared for by. What is the common denominator? They listen to you. They care about your life and opinions. You matter to them. So do you want more or better relationships? They don’t come from telling people how great you are. They come from listening to others and helping them feel great about themselves. I’m with Renée Marino for part 2 to walk and talk through her personal Values, Motives, and Habits. In part 1 we hit on the key message from her book, Becoming a Master Communicator. Renée is a Broadway star and played the lead female role in Clint Eastwood's, Jersey Boys. She knows…communication. I discuss her personal relationship values she led off with just this...listening. Her goal is to be what she calls, a "complete listener." Listen in to hear how she defines this. She shares her recent efforts with inner child work. Her health and wellness goals center around being a powerful communicator with herself and giving focus to her self-worth, and the dangers in her career if she tied her identity and worth to the casting directors opinion of her. At the end in asking Renee about the things she does just to give herself joy and inspiration, she cites dancing, and singing, and you get a treat, as she gives us a stanza from "Someone to Watch Over Me." You can get Renee’s book, "Becoming a Master Communicator" anywhere and when you do, go to FreeGiftfromRenee.com for two gifts she has for you. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices