do do do do do do do here we go my name's todd this is kathy welcome back to another episode of zen

parenting radio this is podcast number 602 why listen to zen parenting radio because you'll feel

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self-understanding. My darling, will you give a teaser to what it is that we're talking about

today, even though there's some things I want to share that I haven't even shared with you yet.

Oh, okay. Well, I wanted to talk about just difference in language and how we talk about our inner experiences.

And I wanted to compare an article that was in the New York Times written by Adam Grant about languishing and a podcast that I listened to that Rob Bell put out last week.

I think it was called, I don't even

know the question. That's exactly right. Sometimes I don't even know the question. Sometimes I don't

even know the question. And I feel like they were talking about a similar thing, but they use

different language. And this is why I really love words, because depending on how you discuss it,

is how you're going to relate to it. And you can be

having an experience and someone can reframe it for you. And then all of a sudden you're like,

oh, I can handle this then. But if people use certain words, then it feels intolerable.

Yeah. So it's basically maybe looking at it through a slightly different lens and having it be more

manageable or?

Well, like I said, using different words, you have certain words carry an energy that make

us feel afraid.

And certain words don't.

And so when you say the word divorce, everybody freaks out, right? You know what I mean? Like

there's like a, that word carries an energy or depression or anger or, you know, we're like,

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