Hey, it's your girl, simply Shanika, and you are you going to really value and respect yourself as a person more than

when are you going to really value and respect yourself as a person more than external validation.

When will you no longer need attention

that disturbs your peace and is a sign of something missing within.

A lot of women do not put themselves first because a lot of us were raised to be givers and if we place ourselves first

Then we are taught to be selfish but it is not selfish to put yourself first, especially mentally, emotionally, and physically.

You have to remember that you cannot pour out of an empty cup.

Take care of yourself always first and invest in people who demonstrate they care about

you regardless of family ties, friendship ties, whatever.

You have to vet everybody that comes into your life

because what you don't want to be is continuously pouring from your cup and not

getting it refilled in exchange. You have to really become the priority and love of your own life.

And letting someone experience that with you is very magical.

Regardless if they friends family lovers whoever

experiencing the essence of you is truly a gift and always remember that at

your best you are love. You have to love yourself. You have to respect yourself.

Regardless if that means that people start dropping out of your life like flies because that probably will happen.

You know, but you have to keep moving forward.

Everybody can't come with you where you're going and where you're going is up and if they don't want to go up

Well, unfortunately their place in your life has to remain miniscule.

And some people listening to this may feel like

that's a harsh way to look at things,

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