I hope you're not taking responsibility for someone else's dysfunction or toxicity.

I believe you should honor yourself and take care of yourself and those who care about you will want you to do that for yourself.

Someone once wrote to me and said, or they asked,

how can I leave my husband after all these years?

How can I break up with them or divorce,

or ask for the divorce in the kindest most compassionate way.

The first thing I thought to myself was,

there's no way it's going to come across easily

for someone who's not expecting it.

Because the end result is what they very likely don't want to hear.

I'm assuming that the person who wrote to me, her, I think husband didn't want to get a divorce

and maybe didn't even think it was coming but he's just been so

awful to her and so all these years she's finally had enough she's reached her

threshold she's reached the end of her rope and now or at least when she wrote to me that she said she was done. I'm done.

But I don't want to hurt his feelings. I want to let him off easily. I mean I don't want to have him go into some emotional breakdown or cry or whatever it is.

What's the easiest way? breakdown or cry or whatever it is.

What's the easiest way to do that?

And there is no easy way.

That's my answer.

There's no easy way.

There's no easy way to let someone down. There's no easy way to let someone down.

There's no easy way to, sometimes you're leaving a job, there's no easy way to quit, you just

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