Love as distinct from being in love is not merely a feeling.

It is a deep unity maintained by the will

and deliberately strengthened by habit.

That's a quote by the Venerable, CS Lewis.

So what is the difference here?

We're talking about knowing each other

in really profound ways.

Okay, so you had some really good questions around

knowing each other to the point

where you can actually speak into each other's lives

in a very in a fruit-bearing way.

Yeah, well, we've been talking about that, right?

We've been talking a lot about meaningful risk.

I feel like over the last couple of episodes,

we've been talking about laughing together

to promote like vulnerability and connection, right?

For all of these reasons.

But all of this takes some sort of knowledge about each other,

some sort of knowing and understanding,

you know, what makes my husband laugh?

Well, what makes, do I know how he or she responds?

My spouse responds to stress.

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