Know Your Love Patterns
The Angry Therapist Podcast
John Kim
4.6 • 1.1K Ratings
🗓️ 29 January 2024
⏱️ 23 minutes
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Summary
In this episode, John talks about how you can bring more to the table in your relationships by knowing what your love patterns are. He also talks about how loving with our past creates unhealthy behaviors and can subtly destroy our relationships, how to resolve conflict, and whether you're holding or grabbing in your relationship.
Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best-selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a human being.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own |
| 0:04.3 | rebirth many years ago and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life |
| 0:08.9 | lessons and revelations. I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose |
| 0:16.2 | because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated. |
| 0:22.4 | This is probably one of the biggest things that can be a crowbar when it comes to relationships is people who don't explore their love patterns and we'll get into what they are. |
| 0:37.0 | You're going to love with your past. You're going to continue to show up in a way that may be unhealthy, that may be destructive, that may be toxic, |
| 0:49.4 | you know and it doesn't have to be obvious like abuse or character assassination or stonewalling. |
| 0:56.1 | I mean, they could be subtle, you know, and it's usually the subtle things because they go |
| 1:00.8 | under the radar that end up collapsing relationships over time, right? |
| 1:07.0 | So today we're going to talk about a few things. |
| 1:10.6 | One, what activate you? And then we're going to talk about how you |
| 1:15.8 | resolve conflict, right? How do you fight without fighting? And then we're going to |
| 1:20.8 | talk about how you lose yourself in a relationship. |
| 1:25.0 | And then finally I want to end with are you holding or are you grabbing in your relationship. |
| 1:32.0 | Okay, number one. are you're grabbing in your relationship? |
| 1:32.8 | Okay, number one, what activate you? |
| 1:37.6 | I know the word trigger is used a lot these days. |
| 1:40.8 | I don't like it because I don't think people use it in an accurate way but activation |
| 1:46.6 | I think is more accurate right so in your relationship or in your relationships if you want to |
| 1:52.3 | look at your past relationships as well. |
| 1:55.0 | What is the pattern of activation? |
| 1:59.0 | You know, when you feel resistance, when you feel |
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