Welcome to Nobody Told Me. I'm Laura Owens and I'm Jan Black. You may not realize it, but the stories we tell

ourselves about ourselves have a big impact on the way we lead our lives and whether we're

able to make changes in our lives.

So how can we recognize those self stories and take control of them so they don't prevent us

from accomplishing our goals? Our guest on this episode is bestselling author Kendra Hall,

who is Success Magazine's chief storytelling officer and the author of the new book, Choose Your Story,

Change Your Life, Silence your Inner Crit, Choose Your Story, Change Your Life,

Silence your Inner Critic and rewrite your life from the inside out.

Kendra, thank you so much for joining us.

Jan, Laura, thank you so much for having me.

Happy to be here.

Your book really resonates with us.

One thing that hit me is the fact that you say that each day, all day, we are whispering a near steady stream of self stories into our ears. Explain more about that. You know, we,

it's, it's this process that our bodies, our makeups, has automated over the course of since, well, many, many

years, the beginning of mankind, right? We use stories outwardly, of course, to communicate

pertinent information, to make points more compellingly. But the inner storyteller was also created to keep us safe,

to make sure that we weren't stepping out of line,

or it really taught us who it was okay to be

by replaying experiences, events, stories back to us. But of course, this isn't,

this is something that is developed as kind of like your, you know, your wisdom teeth. They take

them out because we don't really need them anymore, right? Our bodies have automated these

stories. So we and our brains have automated these stories so we don't

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