Kind words carefully crafted to plant the seed of guilt and shame
Love and Abuse
Paul Colaianni
4.6 • 816 Ratings
🗓️ 21 November 2019
⏱️ 32 minutes
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Summary
Some people have a clever way of making you feel bad about yourself by complimenting you and using positive, supportive words that make it seem like they really care. However, the dark underbelly of their comments may contain the seed of guilt and shame. If you want to know more about this unique phenomenon, listen to this episode.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about helping you identify poisonous communication and toxic behavior. |
| 0:07.4 | You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness. |
| 0:10.9 | That's why it's important that you learn to pinpoint manipulative and controlling behavior so that you keep your power and your sanity. |
| 0:18.6 | I'm your host, Paul Koliani. |
| 0:31.7 | Music power and your sanity. I'm your host, Paul Koliani. Welcome back to another episode of love and abuse. Just want to let you know that all |
| 0:35.6 | information on this show is meant for educational purposes |
| 0:38.5 | only. |
| 0:39.4 | Always seek a professional for your mental health and well-being. |
| 0:42.6 | So there's a subtle manipulation that can often go under the radar. |
| 0:48.9 | It can be injected into a conversation to make someone feel guilt and shame. And it's very well concealed. It's very well |
| 0:59.2 | hidden behind the mask or veil of compliments. And this is something you may or may not know about. |
| 1:08.6 | It took me a while to figure out what was going on |
| 1:12.0 | in this manipulation. It is emotionally abusive, but it's more, it's so devious. It's so crafty. |
| 1:21.2 | And I did this. I did this when I was younger. I'll admit it. And maybe you did too. Maybe someone |
| 1:27.3 | you know is doing this to you now. |
| 1:29.1 | But it's important to understand what this is. |
| 1:33.6 | So you don't get caught in it. |
| 1:37.1 | And it is a way to, like I said, plant a seed in someone's mind of guilt and shame. |
| 1:45.8 | And the person doing this hides the seed in other words of encouragement, positivity, |
| 1:55.2 | compliments. |
| 1:56.6 | And I got an email that probably a few months ago. I get a lot of emails. |
| 2:01.0 | By the way, if you sent me an email, I probably have read it. |
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