These are my personal opinions. Always seek a professional when you're making choices about your mental health and well-being.

I know I've said this before, but I'm going to say it again because I've seen this happen in my own life, in my own family and friends, where they get upset with somebody who shows up as they are.

I know someone who is upset with his dad for showing up exactly as his dad always shows up.

If there's one thing I've learned that has helped me throughout the years is people are

who they are and you can't change them and you shouldn't expect them to change.

They are going to be who they are.

So however long you've known them, that's who they've been. That's who they'll always be.

And once you accept that, once you realize that is the case, even though it could be hurtful

because the person I'm talking about, he loves his dad and he wants his dad to love him back.

But his dad has problems doing that.

He is not capable of loving him in a healthy way.

And I've heard from a lot of people who really want the love from a healthy parent,

or at least the love from an unhealthy parent just to know that they're

lovable and they're worthy in their parents' eyes.

And I see it over and over again that the parents they're talking about have never been

that way.

That is not your fault.

If somebody has never been that way, it's not on you.

It's not your fault.

It doesn't mean you're unlovable or unworthy or when they see you're in pain or when

they see your crying that you would hope that they would have empathy or compassion or

at least sympathy to say something.

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