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Till Death Do Us Part Podcast

Just Melissa- If I Can't Have You: The Attack and Eventual Death of Mark van Dongen

Till Death Do Us Part Podcast

Daniel and Melissa MacArthur

Couple, Crime, Society & Culture, True Crime, Murder, Horror, Comedy, Husband, Lifestyle, Halloween, Satire, Marriage, Wife

4.7861 Ratings

🗓️ 6 February 2026

⏱️ 9 minutes

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Mark van Dongen

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0:00.0

Hello and welcome to another episode of Till Death Do Us Part, Just Melissa.

0:14.4

Now this is one of those cases that forces you to sit with uncomfortable questions.

0:19.7

Not just what happened, but what responsibility

0:23.0

means when a crime doesn't end at the scene. In September of 2015, a 29-year-old engineer named

0:30.6

Mark Van Dongen was asleep in a Bristol flat when someone he once loved walked into the room and changed the course

0:39.9

of his life forever. Sixteen months later, Mark would be dead, not in the UK, not by his

0:47.4

attacker's hand directly, but in a Belgian hospital through a legal assisted death.

1:00.2

And the woman who attacked him, she would be convicted, but not for his death.

1:14.8

This is a story of Mark Van Dongen and Berlina Wallace, a relationship defined by obsession, control, and violence, and a case that still unsettles legal experts today. Now, Mark Van Dongen was a Dutch national born and raised in the Netherlands.

1:22.8

Friends and family described him as gentle, intelligent, and deeply empathetic, the kind of person who

1:30.2

avoided conflict whenever possible. He moved to the UK to study civil engineering and eventually

1:37.3

settled in Bristol, where he built a quiet but full life. He had friends, a career, plans. By all accounts, he was not a reckless man,

1:49.5

and he was not someone who sought drama, which makes what happened next even harder to understand.

1:57.5

Mark met Berlina Wallace around 2010. Berlina was older than Mark, she was in her 40s, and studying

2:05.8

fashion in Bristol. What began as a romantic relationship eventually became cohabitation,

2:13.5

and the two lived together for several years. From the outside, this looked like a long-term

2:19.3

partnership. But behind closed doors, the relationship was volatile. In statements later played to a

2:26.9

jury, Mark described Berlina as extremely controlling, emotionally volatile, and prone to intense jealousy. He told police she once

2:38.5

hid his passport to prevent him from leaving the country. He said she poured boiling water on him

2:44.8

during an argument, and he described incidents where she injured herself and then accused him of causing the injuries.

2:54.1

Something he said made him afraid to leave her. Mark told friends and police that he was scared

3:00.4

of her temper, but felt trapped by guilt and fear. Now, Berlina told a very different story. She claimed that Mark was emotionally and

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