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One thing I do sometimes struggle with is the level of compassion we should be having for our teens if we grew up in a challenging environment.

Like, do any of you have this thing where your teenager will be going through something and it's real and their struggle is real and you validate that their struggle is real?

Or it's not that real or it not, or it's like a high

class problem that you are dealing with them being upset about, and lacking a compassion or sensitivity

chip because you know what it's like to be in an alcoholic or physically abusive or drug

addiction or gambling, soaked, dysfunctional, fucked up, smoked and

drank while pregnant, throw the kids out the backyard, pray for the best, immoral, depraved,

psychologically warped household like I did. Like it's hard when our kids, like, they didn't get the most expensive

sneakers or everyone has this or they're all going here. And like, it's hard to have compassion

in those areas. And there has to be a line where if it's something that seems fairly real,

you do validate their experience. You don't want them to be experiencing the pain that you had. I mean,

there's 50 shades of horrible childhoods. And then you have a child that really orders in Uber

eats, you know, lives on asaii bowls or has really nice clothes or never has to worry about a meal

or going on vacation or going to a camp. And I tell you,

now there's no way for me to say my daughter's not spoiled. She goes to a nice school. She has nice

things. She has a wonderful experience. She's a very good person. She's a wonderful human being.

And from what I understand compared to most other teens, she's exceptional. That's what other

parents say. I don't know. I don't have access to that many teens. So I'm not one of these people that's going to be like, my child's the

smartest. My child's the best. I get it from other people that they say she's really wonderful and

she happens to do very well in school, completely self-regulated, having nothing to do with me.

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