Joseph Burgo: ...how to free myself from feelings of shame

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🗓️ 20 June 2021

⏱️ 28 minutes

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-- Pride Month special --

Have you ever felt shame? Our guest on this episode, psychotherapist and media commentator Joseph Burgo, says shame is a family of emotions ranging from mild embarrassment to deep humiliation, and most of us experience varying degrees of shame every day. He teaches us how to recognize shame, control it, and use it to our advantage. He's the author of a new book called 'Shame: Free Yourself, Find Joy, and Build True Self-Esteem' and is a regular blogger for Psychology Today.

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0:00.0	Welcome to Nobody Told Me.
0:13.4	I'm Laura Owens.
0:14.7	And I'm Jan Black.
0:16.1	Have you ever felt shame?
0:18.3	Our guest on this episode,
0:19.8	psychotherapist Joseph Bergo, says shame is a family of
0:23.4	emotions ranging from mild embarrassment to deep humiliation and most of us experience varying
0:29.3	degrees of shame every day. So how do we recognize shame, control it, and use it to our advantage.
0:36.1	Joseph is here to help us explore those questions. He's the
0:38.9	author of a new book called Shame, Free Yourself, Find Joy, and Build True Self-Esteem.
0:45.9	Joseph, thank you so much for joining us. Oh, it's a pleasure. Thanks for inviting me.
0:50.1	Why did you decide to write a book focusing on shame? Well, it has become increasingly the focus of my
0:57.6	practice over the last 10 years. And that is because it's increasingly become the focus of my own life
1:05.5	coming to terms with my own denial, I guess, the denial of my shame that I had to come to terms with, you know,
1:12.0	at the end of my marriage and a big change in my life. And so I don't know, it just informs the
1:18.5	work I do. It informs the way I think about myself. I think shame is everything.
1:22.7	How long did it take for you to come to terms with what you were feeling at the end of your marriage?
1:28.2	And how quickly were you able to identify that those feelings were shame?
1:33.0	Well, it took a long time. The whole thing was that my marriage and the life I was leading,
1:40.5	you know, successful two-income couple on the west side of L.A., you know, lawyer,
1:45.8	psychoanalyst, we looked really good. We had three kids. That was my defense. That whole life was
1:52.4	my efforts to make everything look really good. And when it all fell apart, I kind of had to face
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