Hi, and welcome to Jesus Over Everything, a short practical podcast that mixes encouragement,

the Bible, how-toes, and fantastic interviews for the listener on the go. I'm Lisa Whittle, and I welcome

you to just a few minutes with me, which I trust and pray will be time well spent. Here we go,

five weeks of Joe and the five deadly overs. Have you taken the free quiz yet to find out which one you most identify with? If not, do that as soon as you listen to the show and listen to the end because I have something exciting to tell you about a resource I'm offering to help even further. Up today, you ever find yourself offering an apology about something

you really don't need to apologize for? Maybe someone has even told you, you don't need to

apologize for that, but it's such a habit for you, you do it all the time. Yeah, I'm talking to those

over-apologizers out there. You know who you are, but why do you do it?

And isn't really that big of a deal. We'll get into all of that today on Joe.

Text all your over-apologetic friends. Share this link on social media. They need to hear this show.

Over-apologizing is the MO of many of us, and though it feels empty, we still do it.

So what does over-apology look like? Well, a lot of the time, it does look like literal apologizing.

The I'm-s-sarys at times, you know, aren't necessary and the person

apologizing might not even mean it. It's the gushing when one apology would suffice. And then

sometimes it also looks like apologizing for someone else. Might not be the thing we think of

at first, but that's also something we do at times. We apologize on the behalf of someone

else when it's not our situation to own because we feel responsible in some way and take on

a responsibility that is not ours. There are a lot of reasons we apologize too much, too often,

and overboard. Many times it's because of an insecurity in ourselves. We fear rejection

or desire acceptance and feel like continuing to apologize will endear someone to us when, in

fact, it typically does the opposite. We don't want to sound shallow and insincere, but over

apology produces that exact thing. When you apologize on the behalf of someone else,

it often feels like love. But people taking personal responsibility for their own actions

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