On this episode of Jocko Underground, I'll give you the proper steps to deal with slumps,

whether they stem from a breakup or any other massive setback.

We'll also explore how to handle a coworker who lashes out but generally performs well.

We'll assess what to do if you're a positive influence on someone,

but they're also influenced by someone in a negative way. Also, sometimes no matter where we go,

people seem to cause problems. I will give you a possible solution for this. And I will also

answer the crucial question, can you achieve your

dreams if you are a quitter? Jocko, I've got a pretty difficult question asked. My fiance

recently decided to leave me. We were together for five years. I currently feel nothing but pain

and regret. We didn't end on bad terms.

She just told me she needs some time to find herself and better herself.

I understand things happen and people change.

I just wanted to know what should I do to cope or get over this?

I restrained from turning to booze like I would have in the past, but every day

that temptation is in the back of my mind. I just want this pain to stop.

Avoiding all self-destructive behavior has been my focus, and it's starting to get draining.

I want to have the energy to get after it, but I can't seem to find it. Just want all-around

advice for this situation.

Your podcast has been a great outlet for me to help through this difficult time. Thanks.

Okay, a couple things here.

So start off with what you're feeling right now is normal, okay? This is not some weird thing that only you're feeling that you're

alone and you this is the worst thing that's ever happened and you feel worse than anybody else

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