In this episode on the underground, we cover a few of the most common questions I come across,

saving relationships, motivating and disciplining your kids,

the eternal struggle between money and passion in your career, questioning faith and

humanity, and the modern considerations of joining the military. These tips

will help you out in life.

Hello, I'd really appreciate some advice

on how to help co-dependent spouse

who has recognized the problem of her own volition

and is willing to change but doesn't know where to begin.

It is destroying the relationship, but we both feel like it's not insurmountable and worth trying to salvage.

Overt suggestions are ineffective and I'm looking for subtle hints and paths to steer her down

without ordering her to do X, Y, where can I start?

Yeah, so what this scenario looks like to me

is you need to get some professional help

before the coddependent spouse.

Now, how do you get a co-dependent spouse professional help

without ordering them, hey, you need to go get,

you need to go get professional help.

What you need to do is say, hey, listen, I think we need help together and

explain the fact that there's people that actually know how to handle these things and how

to help a couple get through these

scenarios and then you roll in there and you start going to some kind of therapy

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