I think what is most attractive to us

is when someone is real

and when someone shares their real struggles

and their real life,

my first born in particular was a really tough baby.

He had acid reflux, he didn't sleep during the night.

And I just remember looking around the room

at the moms that had the perfect babies

or the seem like the perfect babies

and I thought, well, I'm clearly a terrible mother.

Obviously, my husband and I should not have procreated.

Clearly, I don't know what I'm doing.

It was all those things.

And in those moments, you feel so lonely.

You feel so inept.

And I just remember there was this one mom

who was just very honest about,

I don't even remember what it was.

It was like she was going through something

in her marriage or whatever,

her house was never very clean.

And that was the woman I wanted to be around.

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