Jay & Radhi Talk About Icks vs. Red Flags (How to ACTUALLY Know the Difference)
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
iHeartPodcasts
4.8 • 28.5K Ratings
🗓️ 22 November 2025
⏱️ 29 minutes
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Summary
In this fun and unfiltered episode, Jay and Radhi dive into the world of “icks,” those oddly specific little turn-offs that make us cringe for reasons we can’t quite explain. From baby voices and socks with sandals to the blurry line between confidence and cockiness, they laugh their way through the most random dating deal-breakers and what they secretly reveal about us. Amid the jokes, they slip in a few truth bombs too, like how we sometimes use icks to avoid real vulnerability. It’s light, hilarious, and uncomfortably relatable, because honestly, we’ve all had an ick… and we’ve definitely been someone else’s.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Tell the Difference Between an Ick and a Red Flag
How to Communicate Honestly About What Bothers You
How to Recognize When You’re Using an Ick as an Excuse
How to Appreciate Imperfections in the People You Love
It’s easy to get caught up in small things that bother us, but true connection isn’t built on perfection, it’s built on patience, humor, and understanding. Everyone has quirks, and sometimes those quirks are what make relationships real.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
00:19 What is an Ick?
03:07 The Funniest Icks
05:21 How Seriously Should People Take Icks?
09:39 Can You Get Over an Ick?
12:55 Personal Hygiene is Important
14:26 Arrogance Versus Confidence
15:40 Childishness and Immaturity
17:25 Is It Just Poor Communication?
21:43 Top 5 Icks Men have About Women
23:38 The Guy with a List (@wyszkay)
Episode Resources:
Radhi Devlukia | Website
Radhi Devlukia | YouTube
Radhi Devlukia | Instagram
Radhi Devlukia | Facebook
Radhi Devlukia | TikTok
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | This is an IHeart podcast. |
| 0:02.5 | Guaranteed Human. |
| 0:04.4 | One of my biggest icks is when they like wake up and they're confused. |
| 0:08.9 | If they play games on their phone. |
| 0:11.6 | When he posts on social media. |
| 0:13.8 | Grown men shouldn't wear earrings. |
| 0:15.7 | Don't message me saying when am I taking you? |
| 0:19.2 | I'm not. |
| 0:26.1 | How seriously should people take icks they should be seen as more of a funny thing not something that actually puts them off their partner do you ever get over |
| 0:31.4 | a ick the more you like someone the more you'll find the icks cuter everyone is going to have |
| 0:37.3 | something that gives you the ick I remember one of my icks was at the beginning when we were daying. Go on. We used to do that. Oh my god! Hey everyone, welcome back to On Purpose with Jay Shetty with my favorite person in the world, Raditha, and we're diving into topics about things that we talk about, things that we hear |
| 0:54.7 | about from friends and family, things that you could talk about on a long car journey, after a long |
| 0:59.2 | day at work, or maybe while you're out at dinner and you want to have a chat about what's |
| 1:03.3 | going on. So, today's topic is all about X. Ix. Goodicks i feel like the concept of |
| 1:11.1 | icks didn't exist |
| 1:12.3 | when we were dating |
| 1:13.4 | no |
| 1:14.4 | or maybe they existed |
| 1:15.7 | but they didn't have that language |
| 1:17.2 | and if anyone's wondering |
| 1:19.5 | because you've been sleeping under a rock |
| 1:21.7 | what an ick is |
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