Jane Doesn't Like Her Dogs
Proxy with Yowei Shaw
Yowei Shaw
4.8 • 589 Ratings
🗓️ 5 May 2026
⏱️ 50 minutes
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Summary
The case of the dog trainer who stopped feeling close to her own dogs.
Jane's whole life has been dogs. Doggie daycare, animal rescue, behavior modification, fostering, training — dogs were the place she felt most at home. Which is why Jane is so disturbed by what's happening now. She still takes care of her two dogs. She still loves them. But the feeling is gone.
In this episode, Yowei finds a proxy who helps Jane investigate the emotional aftermath of animal caregiving — the burnout, anticipatory grief, and compassion fatigue that can make even love start to feel like another demand.
Please note: This story contains a brief mention of suicidal ideation. If you or someone you know may be considering suicide, call or text 988, or text HOME to 741741.
Featuring Jen Blough, LPC — therapist, compassion fatigue educator, and author of To Save a Starfish. Learn more at animalwelfarewellness.com.
Funding for this story was provided by the University of California, Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center, as part of its “Spreading Love Through the Media” initiative, supported by the John Templeton Foundation.
Resources on compassion fatigue, pet caregiving, and pet loss:
—Compassion fatigue resources from ASPCApro
—Pet caregiver burden resources from Insight Animal Behavior Services
—Cornell Pet Loss Support Hotline
New to Proxy? Try Bisexual Wife Guy for a classic case, or Brian Can't Stop Fact-Checking His Mother-In-Lawfor another story about caregiver burden.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | If you had to vocalize the sound of this conundrum, what would it be? |
| 0:05.7 | I don't know why, but it sounds like a hiccup. |
| 0:09.7 | I have no idea why. |
| 0:20.4 | Hey, everyone, it's Yo-A. On Praxie, we believe no one is ever alone with their problem, |
| 0:27.0 | no matter how niche, no matter how weird. Because statistically, somewhere out there is someone |
| 0:33.0 | who gets it. And through the powers of reporting, we find them. Today's case, the dog trainer |
| 0:40.8 | obsessed with dogs who stopped feeling close to her own. A problem I was intrigued by, |
| 0:47.9 | because of its extreme specificity, but as I discovered, speaks to issues a lot of us will |
| 0:53.9 | end up relating to whether or not we have dogs. |
| 0:57.6 | That's after the break. Ever wondered why some trends are just suddenly everywhere? |
| 1:20.5 | Newsflash, nothing gets popular by accident. |
| 1:24.2 | I'm Brittany Luce, and on the It's Been a Minute podcast, I take the things you and I are both obsessing over and show you the invisible forces behind the scenes that make us love it or hate it. Be smarter about what you're consuming. Listen to the It's Been a Minute podcast today. |
| 1:53.6 | A quick note, some of the audio in this episode is a tiny bit garbled. I'm not sure why. Just know that proxy engineer Kyle did his best to fix my mistakes. Also, you should know that this episode |
| 1:59.8 | includes a brief mention of suicidal thoughts. So please, |
| 2:04.9 | please take care of yourself while listening. If you or someone you know is in crisis, call or text |
| 2:10.4 | 988 for the suicide and crisis lifeline. So there's this woman, Jane, and legend has it that her first word was dog. |
| 2:22.9 | She got her first pup at age six, and from that moment on, for the next 32 years, her world was dog. |
| 2:32.6 | In college, she worked at a doggy daycare, then fostering dogs and volunteering in animal rescue. |
| 2:39.0 | Then she got certified in dog behavior modification and became a trainer. |
| 2:45.0 | For Jane, her connection with dogs was just always stronger than with people. |
| 2:52.0 | She never wanted kids, just dogs. |
| 2:55.2 | She once even chose a dog over a boyfriend, |
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