ITL294: Are You Assisting Your Adult Child or Enabling Them?
In the Loop with Andy Andrews
Matt Lempert
4.9 • 614 Ratings
🗓️ 19 August 2017
⏱️ 25 minutes
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Summary
In this episode, we answer a listener's question on difficulties with their adult child.
You're never going to stop being a parent to your adult child, but you're not their authority unless they allow it.
- They don't have to agree with you about what the best is.
- Wise people never let themselves out from under the umbrella of authority, even if they have to artificially create it.
At some point, financial support can become enablement.
- Some parents use up all their retirement putting their children through college for a degree they don't end up using.
- By providing for them, you make them think they're more financially able than they really are.
- At some point, you may have to say, "As much as we'd like to continue doing this, we don't have the money."
- It's hard to watch your child suffer when all you have to do is pick up your wallet, but struggling can produce success later in life and you might be robbing him of that.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | You're listening to In the Loop, a unique opportunity to see life from a different perspective |
| 0:06.5 | with New York Times bestselling author, Andy Andrews. Now here's your host, David Loy. |
| 0:13.3 | Hi and welcome to In The Loop with Andy Andrews. I'm your host, David Loy. Thanks for being with us |
| 0:18.2 | again. This week's episode brought to you by Tucker ATV. Check them out, |
| 0:22.9 | tuckeratv.com, also on Facebook at Tucker ATV. These are great folks. Shannon and Lisa, |
| 0:29.7 | Andy talks about them quite a bit. They're sponsoring this week's episode of In the Loop, Tuckeratv.com. |
| 0:36.7 | Andy, how are you? |
| 0:38.1 | Good, buddy. |
| 0:38.7 | How are you doing? |
| 0:39.7 | I'm terrific. |
| 0:40.4 | I know that, I know earlier today you were actually recording a few different things, |
| 0:46.1 | and you did a funny impression. |
| 0:47.7 | You always do a great impression of Zig Zigler. |
| 0:51.1 | It made me wonder if you would be willing to hit us with a quick zig tidbit a quick zig |
| 0:57.0 | a quick zig right now do you got anything for us it's funny that i i do think zig sometimes i mean |
| 1:04.7 | sometimes i'll be i will see something and it will and i don't know why but it'll it'll hit me like how he would have said it |
| 1:13.0 | or I'll be right in the middle of a speech or something and I'll and I will say sometimes I'll say |
| 1:19.4 | the audience that sounds like something Zigger would have said what I'd say it's how he would have said |
| 1:23.1 | but I was somewhere the other day and watching a bunch of little kids |
| 1:27.5 | and they were singing that song that we have all heard |
| 1:31.5 | and I turned to Polly as we were leaving. |
| 1:34.4 | And I said, |
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