ITL293: How to Teach Your Child Self-Control
In the Loop with Andy Andrews
Matt Lempert
4.9 • 614 Ratings
🗓️ 12 August 2017
⏱️ 33 minutes
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Summary
In this episode, we answer a listener's question on self-control.
You can't force real change in your child.
- Most parents who want their child to change, try to force the change by setting tight rules.
- To change someone you need two things: what's in it for me, and proof beyond a reasonable doubt.
Have conversations with your child about their future.
- Get specific about where they want to go in life.
- Tell them you want the best for them, and explain why that change is in their best interest.
- You discipline them so that they can discipline themselves later in life.
- Since the best is only one thing, you can be wrong. Let your kids know they can talk to you if they disagree with you.
How important is it for parents to present a united front?
- It makes things easier.
- The reason parents don't present a united front is because they disagree.
- If it's a difference of opinion, compromise. If it's a disagreement over a course of action, have a conversation about it without fighting.
Tune in to hear how Andy parents and communicates with his kids.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | You're listening to In the Loop, a unique opportunity to see life from a different perspective |
| 0:06.5 | with New York Times bestselling author, Andy Andrews. |
| 0:10.4 | Now here's your host, David Loy. |
| 0:13.1 | Hi and welcome to In The Loop with Andy Andrews. |
| 0:15.9 | I'm your host, David Loy. |
| 0:17.1 | Thanks for being with us again. |
| 0:18.7 | Andy, you and I are sitting across the table from each other this time. |
| 0:21.8 | This is good. I like doing this. I like being in Nashville and I like being where we can like talk like this. |
| 0:29.0 | And normally we're talking what, six, seven hundred miles apart, but today we're three feet apart and |
| 0:33.5 | always happy to have you here at the home base in Franklin, Tennessee. You've actually been on the road quite a bit lately. I have, I have. I've been, you know, nothing in particular, but here and there. Yep, you were in Missouri. Mostly there. You were in Missouri recently with your good buddy, Dr. Grant Woods. I was. That was awesome. Yeah. I got to hang out with that whole family for a little bit. |
| 0:56.4 | That was great. |
| 0:57.0 | Yeah, and we'll talk a little bit more about him and everything awesome that he has going on shortly |
| 1:02.5 | because he may or may not be the sponsor for this week's episode. |
| 1:07.1 | May or may not. |
| 1:08.7 | We'll find out shortly. |
| 1:09.7 | I'll tell you what, the boys were aggravated that I |
| 1:12.4 | got to go and they were not able to go and, you know, Polly's been, Polly's been there to their place. |
| 1:19.3 | Right. And so. Yeah. And just cool people, great business and excited to talk about them a little bit more here in a few minutes. |
| 1:26.9 | But before we do that, I wanted to get to a little bit more here in a few minutes. But before we do |
| 1:27.6 | that, I wanted to get to a question that has come in. And actually, this is a question, |
| 1:32.8 | Andy, you receive frequently. And I don't think we've ever addressed this on a podcast. But we've got |
| 1:39.0 | a longtime listener named Roosty. He's been listening for quite a while. He's actually been |
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