ITL144: What Should You Make Your Kids Work For, and What Should You Just Give Them?

In the Loop with Andy Andrews

Matt Lempert

Business

4.9 • 614 Ratings

🗓️ 2 August 2014

⏱️ 28 minutes

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Summary

On this week’s episode, I discuss a popular listener question: “What should you provide for your kids, and what should they have to work for?”

Some parents have a cut and dry answer for that, but I don’t.

My answer changes depending on what’s going on.
It’s according to how they are behaving.
If I sense a spirit of gratefulness, then there are more things that I will handle for them. A lot of the time it’s not even things they are aware of.
The one thing that can truly stop it in a heartbeat is if I sense a spirit of expectation or a lack of gratefulness. Then it’s a totally different ballgame.

There was a time last week that I needed to drive Austin around to several locations for the business he has started.

Something distracting was happening when we got home, and a few minutes later I was aware that Austin had not thanked me for doing that for him.
I used this situation to explain to him that as he grew older, life would become more chaotic and there will be more occasions to forget how to act.
People want to be around grateful people, and it’s a desirable quality in an employee or boss.

I recently saw a kid who got a brand new BMW on his 16^th birthday.

At some point that car is going to wear out. And if the parents aren’t going to buy him another car when he’s older, then that may be the nicest car he ever has.
I see young adults all the time who are disappointed with their life, because the best car they ever drove, place they lived, or most fun they had was when they were a kid.
As they become more disappointed, it affects how they act. And then their performance level is affected at work. Over time, they become more and more likely never to have that BMW again.

I’ve elaborated on this topic in a free 4-video series I did on smart parenting. I’d love for you to get to watch it!

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0:00.0	You're listening to In the Loop, a unique opportunity to see life from a different perspective
0:06.5	with New York Times bestselling author, Andy Andrews. Now here's your host, David Loy.
0:13.1	Hello and welcome to In the Loop with Andy Andrews. I'm your host, David Loy. Andy,
0:18.8	welcome back and thanks for joining us.
0:21.4	Hey, buddy. I am excited to be here with you today. This is a great time in my life. I love
0:28.6	this time of year, and I love being with the family, and so we're learning a lot.
0:36.1	You know, we're working hard too and and so i i think that
0:41.5	you know the time that i get to spend with the boys it's important that they see me work and
0:48.8	and that they see some sacrifices that i make and that polly makes and And, you know, we're establishing that work ethic in
0:57.2	them. And school is getting close to starting. What grade are the boys going into? Adam goes into
1:04.2	sixth grade and Austin goes into the ninth grade. Oh my goodness. You have a high schooler. I know.
1:10.2	It's just killing. Austin has all of a have a high schooler. I know. It's just killing.
1:11.8	Austin has all of a sudden just like shot up. I did not realize how tall he was getting
1:18.0	until I took a picture of Austin and Adam with some fish. And I mean, I had him right in front of me,
1:26.0	but I looked at the picture and I'm like, holy cow, you're a head taller than Adam. And so he's just like growing like a weed. And I'm sure he is just loving that.
1:37.2	Oh, he's loving it. His foot's almost as big as mine. So he's, you know, he's still, you know, he's growing, but his feet are like he's, you know,
1:48.5	walking around with two by fours there on the end of his leg.
1:51.7	And does he think that he can take dad in a race or in a wrestling match or anything?
1:57.3	Oh, constantly.
1:58.8	Constantly.
1:59.8	Dad, can you touch this? Watch how high I can jump.
2:03.0	Dad. Dad, you know, dad, you want to race? And I, you know, and now I'm reduced to this kind of thing.
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