It Takes Power & A Plan To Be Done
The R Spot with Iyanla
Shondaland Audio and iHeartPodcasts
4.9 • 908 Ratings
🗓️ 19 April 2023
⏱️ 38 minutes
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Summary
When a caller joins Iyanla to express his fear about ending his marriage, it becomes apparent that he’s got no exit strategy in place. The caller is unable to take ownership of his desire to end the relationship, which means he might not actually be ready to move on. And, as Iyanla digs deeper, she uncovers that he may be getting emotionally blackmailed. So, to get to the core of his fear of the future, Iyanla guides him toward saying, “I’m Done.”
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| 0:00.0 | I amla, your host, your guide, a teacher for Sam and a soft place to fall for others. |
| 0:09.4 | And I was a miserable failure in my relationships until I love myself enough to be able to share my love with other people. |
| 0:19.0 | Welcome to the R-Spot, a production of Shandaland Audio in partnership with I Heart Radio. There was a song, I think it was in the 70s or the 80. |
| 0:39.0 | There was a song. I think it was in the 70s or the 80s. Oh my God I'm dating myself. |
| 0:47.0 | And the song was breaking up is hard to do when you really love someone. |
| 0:58.0 | Breaking up is really hard to do when you love someone more than you love yourself |
| 1:07.0 | because if yourself wants to leave the relationship |
| 1:12.0 | and their self wants you to stay. |
| 1:15.6 | Breaking up is gonna be really hard to do. |
| 1:19.8 | You've gotta love yourself enough |
| 1:22.4 | to be able to stand in and for what's best for you even though breaking up |
| 1:29.4 | is hard to do and it's even harder when we love somebody but we know this just isn't working. |
| 1:36.7 | I don't know why that's not enough. This ain't working. I love you. I love your dirty draws but this ain't working. It's not working for me. It's not working for you. We are sad |
| 1:50.0 | happy sometimes sad most of the time is not working and breaking up is hard to do |
| 1:57.2 | but I'm willing to do the work to break up so that I can have what I need. |
| 2:04.2 | Breaking up is hard to do. |
| 2:06.8 | And I don't know how we got here, and it's hard, |
| 2:09.4 | and I don't like it, and you don't like it. |
| 2:11.6 | But I'm done. Those two it but I'm done those two words I'm done and the other two words |
| 2:17.9 | That are really really important in the midst of a breakup is exit strategy. |
| 2:26.1 | I'm done and I'm getting my exit strategy. |
| 2:30.0 | That's the focus of my conversation |
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