So many girls live where do I begin. I see this one I'm out to go in. Then she says I'm here with my friend. She got me thinking and that's Hi Anna how are you?

Hi Anna how are you?

Hi oh my god I'm kind of nervous.

Okay so I don't have a huge dilemma per se but I did want to call and talk about

sex a little bit. Thank you my prayers have been answered okay I was literally

manifesting in the car I was like I need a I need a good sex call it just I need one so thank you

for calling tell me what's on your right so this is well I just want your advice because

I feel like you've said you like you're not necessarily regrets but like in your 20s you

wished you had more casual effects yeah and so for context I'm 26 and I live in New York City and I just feel like this is my time time to time.

But I really only had like one long time boyfriend from college and I was like three years ago and then like maybe one to two situationships and I just feel like I'm not I don't know like I'm not saying this in a pickney way but I'm not like conventionally like skinny pretty New York City girly pop but like I feel like spring and summer coming up and I just don't know like how to tangibly

Have more casual sex like if you have any tips on I don't know how you do it from the apps, from real life, like what is the approach?

So, okay, first of all, I completely understand and I have had many times in my life where I'm in exact same position as you where I'm like,

I want this and I just don't feel like it's available to me.

And I know this is going to sound like a woo-w-woo first step, but the first thing that always helps me is like an attitude shift.

And it's funny because I feel like I've had to learn this lesson several times over

because we just go through phases, right?

Like sometimes you just get in a phase and you're like I don't know how I could possibly have casual sex like I don't know how to do that I don't feel like it's possible and then I'll like go on a trip like for me it's usually a trip like most recently I went to Costa Rica and I was like a little

slutty there but like it reawakened me and I was like wait it's not that hard

actually it's more an attitude shift than anything where you kind of just look at

everything every situation every

date every time you go out in a different light and you're just like you know what I

could have sex with any of these people or if I feel like it I could go home with this guy tonight it

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