Welcome to the Daily Dad podcast, where we provide one lesson every single day to help you with your most important job, being a parent.

I'm Ryan Holiday, and I draw these lessons from ancient philosophy, modern psychology, practical wisdom, and insights from

parents just like you all over the world. Thank you for listening, and we hope this helps.

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It's good when they're bad?

Of course, no one likes it when their children misbehave.

Whether it's a defiant toddler in the grocery store,

the teenager speaking to you rudely,

not only do we not like these things, but we take them as indictments of our capacity as parents. Clearly, they don't respect us, clearly, they don't listen, clearly, we're failing. But what if that's precisely the wrong way to think about it? In a recent New York Times piece, Melinda Wenner-Moyer, author of the fantastic How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Asholes, which I carry over at the painted porch, in the piece, she asked you to

consider that very notion. Perhaps she proposes your kid's misbehavior is actually a sign of how

loved and safe they feel. As she writes, think of it this way, when kids are always respectful, complacent,

and obedient with adults, it's often because they're afraid of those adults. It's not a coincidence

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