Welcome to the Daily Dad podcast, where we provide one lesson every single day to help you with your most important job, being a parent.

I'm Ryan Holiday, and I draw these lessons from ancient philosophy, modern psychology, practical wisdom, and insights from parents just like you all over the world.

Thank you for listening, and we hope this helps.

The tantrum, the whining about going to school, the punch that's thrown, the slipping grades, the sneaking out, the lie, the shouting, the moping around the house. These are not things you like to see your kids do. Maybe these are things you've talked to them about before, maybe a million times. But maybe that's the problem. You're seeing the wrong thing. You're talking about the wrong thing. In her wonderful book, Good Inside, which, yes, I know I've

raved about and you absolutely should buy, grab it from the panty porch, Dr. Becky writes that

on the surface we see a behavior, but underneath we see a person. We said before that your kids

are always talking to you, just not necessarily with words. Throwing the cereal box wasn't

the main event, Dr. Becky explains.

It was a window into the main event. Behavior in all its forms, she says, is a window, into the

feelings, the thoughts, the urges, sensations, perceptions, and unmet needs of a person. Behavior is never

the story, but rather it's a clue to the bigger story begging to be addressed. And what a wonderful gift you could give to your family to everyone you meet. If you could start seeing behavior, not as the thing to be upset about, but as a window into how someone is doing. What's going on with them? We've said it many times. They're telling you that they're hungry, that they're tired, that they're scared, that they're lonely, that they're overwhelmed, their stress. They don't know how to say it. So they lash out. So they hide in their room. So they call you something mean. If you've practiced hearing what's really being said, if you can see through that window, you'll be able to deal with all this so much better. You'll be able to teach them, reflect back to them,

no matter how old they are, what their feelings are, and how mature, regulated people deal

with their feelings.

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